ViviviV

Trying to step out of my quarter-life crisis, working as a Junior Engineer. Balancing the serious and the whimsical, that's my life in a nutshell, and probably this blog too. --Vivian
thedailywhat:

Seeing The Light of the Day: Displayed at the 2012 Light Festival in Belgium, the Luminarie De Cagna is a 28-meter-tall cathedral composed of 55,000 LEDs.
Footage of the structure, as well as other Light Festival exhibits, below:
[colossal.]

Light-brite architecture!

thedailywhat:

Seeing The Light of the Day: Displayed at the 2012 Light Festival in Belgium, the Luminarie De Cagna is a 28-meter-tall cathedral composed of 55,000 LEDs.

Footage of the structure, as well as other Light Festival exhibits, below:

[colossal.]

Light-brite architecture!

(Source: thedailywhat)

RHPolitics: hipme: Okay, I don’t want to speak for the blogger in question here,...

hipme:

Okay, I don’t want to speak for the blogger in question here, because I’m not her. All I’m doing is pointing out that your original post was condescending, and if you are a frequent reader of the blog then you should feel familiar enough with the blogger (as most of the STFUP…

You’re obviously extremely comfortable with being condescending to people on the internet, to the point where you don’t even realize it. I’m not naive in thinking that a blogger wouldn’t be criticized on the internet. I’m just not understanding why you insist on ripping on somebody who you supposedly like as well. 

You’ve demonstrated yourself to be a part of the hostile, confrontational Tumblr community that I find annoying at best. So good riddance. I doubt you’ll miss another follower anyway.

(Source: stfuparents, via )

robot-heart-politics:

hipme:

Cookies? Is it really necessary to be that condescending to a blog that just makes fun of oversharing Facebook moms? STFU Parents is just a lighthearted Tumblr, I really don’t see the point in writing an essay about gender equality. A) The blogger isn’t a strongly opinionated Tumblr-activist and will most likely ignore this, b) If she does see this, she’ll apologize for any miscommunication because I doubt she’s oblivious enough to the plight of 21st century women, c) in view of point b, why the condescension? 

Oh, or maybe you’ve never really spent too much time reading the posts and participating in the huge community that exists in the blog comments where people do daily point things out to B and she graciously accepts her mistakes. 

1) “Cookies” was plural and addressed at pretty much anyone who reads this blog. I frequently address people who read this blog as “kittens,” “kids,” etc. I have no idea why I do this. It’s not meant specifically to be condescending. It’s just how I talk…which is, granted, generally probably a little condescending. 

2) I’m a regular reader of STFU parents. I do actually get that it’s supposed to be “light-hearted.” I mean, even if I weren’t a regular reader, the fact that the main image on the page is a Pabst in an ultrasound would probably be a giveaway that it’s supposed to be humorous. 

3) I think it’s interesting that I’m being taken to task for being condescending toward a person who keeps a blog where the entire point is to be condescending. Unless I’m mistaken, what makes STFU parents funny is that it’s snark directed at people who are generally viewed as less intelligent and socially aware than they the blogger/we the readers are. 

4) If you’re making fun of women complaining about the fact that they do more housework than men partially on the premise that, “LOL, it’s 2012! that obviously doesn’t happen anymore!”, and as it turns out, most women actually do end up doing more housework than men, it kind of makes the joke not so funny. Maybe it’s just me, getting all technical on what makes funny things funny and stuff, but if you’re going to make a joke predicated on the idea that you know more than the person you’re making fun of, you actually have to know more than the person you’re making fun of for it to be funny. 

5) Thanks for taking time out of your busy day to drop the “tone” argument on me and for gently reminding me that gender equality only matters if we’re in spaces specifically designated for discussions about gender equality. Silly me, always forgetting that gender equality is only relevant if I’m talking to activists or in an activist space, because it doesn’t have any application or relevance outside those places. 

Okay, I don’t want to speak for the blogger in question here, because I’m not her. All I’m doing is pointing out that your original post was condescending, and if you are a frequent reader of the blog then you should feel familiar enough with the blogger (as most of the STFUP community is) to at least give her the benefit of the doubt. If you don’t think calling people “cookies” is condescending well… I’m not sure what to say. I suppose it’s subjective but I can’t imagine calling anybody I even marginally respected “cookies”. 

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t talk about gender equality, or that there’s an “appropriate” platform for those conversations. I’m saying, I really highly doubt B was ignoring that there’s a gender issue, and I’m willing to give her the benefit of the doubt, and I would think most STFUP community would. I think you’re picking a battle with someone who’s already on your side of the fight. She said explicitly that she’s basing her idea of husbands and wives sharing household responsibilities on her own experiences, and she hopes that’s the case everywhere. She’s not saying that the shared responsibility is true everywhere, but that it COULD be true, and she hopes it is (or will be).  

And I do think tone is important, especially on Tumblr where some people are so confrontational. If you have a problem with B, post a comment, write her a message, even reblog with why you think her post was problematic. Even if you don’t think “cookies” is condescending, the fact that you felt justified to lecture her with supported statistics on how women are not treated equally means you don’t believe she knows any of that already. I would think a long time reader would treat the bloggers they follow better than that. Likewise, I’ve followed you practically since I joined Tumblr, and I didn’t expect such a reaction just because I pointed out you’re being patronizing to a fun harmless blog. Unlike STFUP where sarcasm and condescension is employed for the sake of humour, your post is just mean. 

I think there are ignorant people on Tumblr worth getting mad over, and I don’t think STFUP blogger is one of them. But if you think it’s cool to just post patronizing responses to everyone on Tumblr who you think is making a statement about something you don’t agree with, then go ahead. 

(Source: stfuparents, via )

robot-heart-politics:

stfuparents:

I touched on this subject in a recent Mommyish column, but in all honesty I do not understand or relate to the comparisons between women and men and housework. I say that not just as a feminist, but as a person who grew up with her dad making the school lunches, doing most of the grocery shopping, running a ton of kid-related errands, and so forth. In my house, and what I’d like to believe is most homes in 2012, two partners share household duties. Dishes, laundry, that moment when you finally clean your television screen after like five months of wondering why the picture seems blurry - all of these tasks can be performed by both sexes. I know that sounds CRAZY, but in my experience, it’s actually true!

Here’s the thing, cookies. While we’d all like to believe that in 2012, most homes have an equitable division of domestic labor and that everyone understands that cleaning isn’t the sole province of the lady of the manor, the truth is that in most households, an equitable division of labor doesn’t exist. Study after study after study after study after study after study has shown that women—even when they also work full time jobs (or even where she has a job and he doesn’t)—do more housework and child-rearing than their male partners.

Is this true in absolutely every household? No. My house certainly doesn’t work like this. BUT. Anecdotal evidence rarely shows you the big picture. “It’s 2012, for chrissakes!” usually reveals even less. Perfect example: This story about a “whites only” sign on a pool in an apartment complex is not from sometime in the 60s, but is, in fact, from just a couple of weeks ago. It may be 2012, but that doesn’t mean that everyone living now is progressive, forward-thinking and free of racism, sexism, etc.

So. Do women still typically do more housework than men in most households? Yes. Does that make it okay to shamebomb someone’s facebook post about something completely unrelated, lecturing them on how being a married woman means you have about a gajillion times more work than they do? No. Still. The fact that this behavior is inappropriate doesn’t mean that the women bringing it up are imagining things, though, or that we shouldn’t openly discuss the fact that these gendered inequities in household chores and child-rearing still exist. They do exist, and it’s important that we discuss why we’re still living like this, even if most of us seem to understand that this isn’t how it should be.

Cookies? Is it really necessary to be that condescending to a blog that just makes fun of oversharing Facebook moms? STFU Parents is just a lighthearted Tumblr, I really don’t see the point in writing an essay about gender equality. A) The blogger isn’t a strongly opinionated Tumblr-activist and will most likely ignore this, b) If she does see this, she’ll apologize for any miscommunication because I doubt she’s oblivious enough to the plight of 21st century women, c) in view of point b, why the condescension? 

Oh, or maybe you’ve never really spent too much time reading the posts and participating in the huge community that exists in the blog comments where people do daily point things out to B and she graciously accepts her mistakes. 

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allaboutami:

Here’s another one of our favourite recipes we like to use when we’re in the mood for pasta!  Michael Ruhlman’s Tomato Basil Garlic Pasta is so delicious and flavourful, and it’s a favourite of ours because of its simplicity.  The sauce used to coat the pasta is made up of tomato water (chopped tomatoes release their water when mixed with coarse sea salt) combined with garlic and butter.  Topped off with basil and parmesan, this pasta is near perfection.  It reminds me of the pasta I often reminisce about when we visited Italy!  Michael Ruhman even has a video showing how he makes this pasta on his page, so check out the video and recipe here!
You’ll never guess where I’m blogging from right now…MAUI!!!  It’s absolutely beautiful here and the food has been amazing since I love seafood and sushi :)  Responses to comments and questions will take longer than normal because of this ;)  Be sure to follow me on twitter here to get my updates and to see the stunning view from where I’m blogging!

Mmmm I love easy light pasta. Must save this for later this week.

allaboutami:

Here’s another one of our favourite recipes we like to use when we’re in the mood for pasta! Michael Ruhlman’s Tomato Basil Garlic Pasta is so delicious and flavourful, and it’s a favourite of ours because of its simplicity. The sauce used to coat the pasta is made up of tomato water (chopped tomatoes release their water when mixed with coarse sea salt) combined with garlic and butter. Topped off with basil and parmesan, this pasta is near perfection. It reminds me of the pasta I often reminisce about when we visited Italy! Michael Ruhman even has a video showing how he makes this pasta on his page, so check out the video and recipe here!

You’ll never guess where I’m blogging from right now…MAUI!!!  It’s absolutely beautiful here and the food has been amazing since I love seafood and sushi :)  Responses to comments and questions will take longer than normal because of this ;)  Be sure to follow me on twitter here to get my updates and to see the stunning view from where I’m blogging!

Mmmm I love easy light pasta. Must save this for later this week.

(Source: allaboutami)

To my ex-boyfriend,

It’s been almost 2 years now, and this break-up is still showing its repercussions. I’ve said sorry for many things already, but there’s one thing we need to clear up. There are a million things you could resent me for. I wasn’t loving enough, I took too long to end the relationship when I knew for almost a year that it was already over, I gave my heart to someone else before I let you go, I pushed you too hard to become someone you weren’t. But the ONE thing you’ve decided to hold against me, the one thing that your friends have rallied behind as the reason to stop being civil to me, is sex. 

For 4 years I thought we dated for love. I gave you all of me except for my body, because I wasn’t ready. I didn’t want to, I was terrified to. And when I became ready, I didn’t want you to have it. By the time I knew I was ready, you weren’t the one anymore. But you were never, NEVER entitled to my virginity just because we were young and in love. And I don’t understand why you still feel entitled to have a part of my body just because we shared 4 years together. I don’t understand why your friends have any right to harbour hate against me for not putting out. Of all the reasons you have to resent me, all the ways I could have been a better girlfriend, sex is not one of them. 

I wish you would stop, and talk to your friends and tell them to stop. Because it angers me and disgusts me to think that you feel you have stock in what I do with my body. That’s the rational of rapists, and it scares me that you share this sentiment. 

I’m sorry I wasn’t a better girlfriend. I’m not sorry that I never slept with you. You can’t hold it against me. 

Vivian